God’s Design for Marriage - Peter Tan Chi

God’s Design for Marriage - Peter Tan Chi

God knew that it was not good for Adam to be alone so He made Eve, an “ezer kenegdo” for him (Genesis 2:18). “Ezer kenegdo” means life giver and support.

Commitment.  Marriage transfers your loyalty from parents to your spouse (Genesis 2:24-25).

Exclusivity.  God designed marriage to be monogamous; no extramarital parties.  Marriage is between a man and a woman (Mark 10:6-8).

Permanent.  God’s design is for husband and wife to stay together regardless of past failures or present feelings.  No one is to separate them (Mark 10:9-12).

For Pleasure and Enjoyment.  A husband and wife are to enjoy oneness and intimacy in marriage.  Sex is beautiful and enjoyable in the context of marriage (Proverbs 5:18-19).

A Picture of Our Relationship with God.  It was designed to help us better understand God and His love for us, and to pass on a godly legacy.

Following God’s Design

Wives are to submit and respect their husbands as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22).

Hope in Christ:  God will take care of you.  He is your source of security (Hebrews 6:19).

Encourage:  It is a command to intentionally encourage him daily (Hebrews 3:13).

Respect:  Honor, esteem, love, and admire him exceedingly (Ephesians 3:55).

Submit:  Share your opinion, but always follow his decision (1 Peter 3:1-5).

Husbands are to lead and love their wives and children as Christ loved the church.

Lead and Love (No Blame):  You are responsible before God for your family.

Example (No Excuse):  You should not allow your family to use you as an excuse not to follow God.

Affirm (No Insecurity):  Be generous in affirming your wife and children.

Disciple (No Negligence):  Always mentor your wife and children.

Children, it is God’s command for you to honor your parents. Make an intentional effort to appreciate, love, and care for them (Ephesians 6:1-3).

God is our Designer and our Maker. He knows and wants the best for us. The more intimate we are with God, the more we follow Him. For best results in life, follow God’s design.